Emotional Awareness Training For Men
Welcome to The Unshakable Man – We practice a new emotional awareness topic every month to help men relax, open and connect to their life and emotions. Click here to register for the next upcoming training.
What is emotional awareness?
The question is not “who am I?”. This question suggests there’s a single answer. Yet, our being is not a fixed thing. If you’re asking a question like this – it likely means you’re struggling with your identity and searching for a concrete sense of self. As Mel Schwartz L.C.S.W. says, “The irony is that the more you seek to identify who you are, the more fragile you are likely to feel about yourself.” The productive stabilizing question to ask is – How do I want to experience my life? This leads you to learn about your emotional awareness.
Read these 6 articles first:
- What is emotional awareness
- Emotional awareness and men (2019 Statistics & Data)
- Loneliness, emotional awareness is the cure
- IQ vs EQ – What makes emotional awareness important
- Emotions vs Feelings vs Thoughts vs Moods vs Stories
- 3 Most important exercises to practice emotional awareness
Change your life – Take a YEAR ON!
Choosing to change your life might be the hardest and most important thing you ever do but it can be done. It starts with taking responsibility for your life and learning process. WE CALL THIS TAKING A YEAR ON IN LIFE.
Taking a YEAR ON means you choose to “TURN ON TO YOUR LIFE” – you have a defined start, end, and therefore a middle to your learning process. For many people, it’s their first time ever looking at life as their own. And it’s their first time making their own choices. Rather than having a job, a partner, or a college tell you what to do – this is your year to turn on to your life.
That is why we create guides, host trainings, organize retreats with Evryman, and created The Unshakable Man Program – to help you take control of your life and be the man you want to be.
Our newsletter is designed to work with your year on in life. We will send you with 1 emotional awareness learning topic a week for an entire year. Subscribe to the M.E.A.T Newsletter today – Begin your year on now!
Hi. We’re Mike Sagun and Chris Wilson.
We don’t only teach emotional awareness – we used it to start our business and to build/maintain our relationship as best friends and business partners. Learn more about us, our journeys to become men’s coaches and this community.
We believe that you are the expert on your own embodied emotional awareness. Nobody else is better than you. Emotions are highly subjective. And if you can learn to report on them accurately for yourself – then you are the best person to do research on your emotions.
When men feel safe, relaxed, open and connected, they are capable of experiencing a wide spectrum of emotions unrelated to culture, gender, sexual orientation or identity.
- We believe it takes vulnerability and courage to and express ourselves fully.
- We believe all men deserve to be seen and heard.
- We believe all men deserve a life of fulfillment.
Hi. I’m Mike Sagun.
Mike Sagun is the co-founder of The Unshakable Man. He is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC), facilitator, and speaker. He works with companies like Dropbox, Google, LinkedIn, Kaiser Permanente, Kumu, Saje Wellness, and EVRYMAN. Before founding The Unshakable Man, Mike spent 10 years as a teaching artist, educating and coaching young people to make healthier choices for their lives. He’s spoken on stage at TEDx and TFCU. When he’s not coaching, facilitating, or speaking, you can find him leading men at an EVRYMAN retreat and men’s group. Schedule a 15 min intro call with Mike.
Hi. I’m Chris Wilson.
Chris Wilson is a true self-directed learner. He loves helping men in the Unshakable Man Program stay accountable and build healthy habits to reach their goals by implementing what they learn from the program in their real life. He relies on his experience from three main areas of his life to assist men in the program. He did not go to college. Instead he trained and raced triathlons and cycling at a National Team level. He later excelled in sales for 7 years where he discovered the value of effective social and emotional training. And finally, he has a certification in behavior modification coaching from the B.J. Fogg Tiny Habit Academy and is a professional public speaking instructor with Magnetic Speaking in San Francisco.
The Unshakable Man Lifestyle
The Unshakable Man lifestyle is focused on life long learning and total health and wellness. All of our content and our 8-week men’s program are designed to help men deconstruct and re-build their lives so they can live with confidence and purpose.
What is an Unshakable Man
Anyone who is capable of relaxing, opening and connecting to their life and relationships – who take responsibility for their life and situation, who take ownership of their story, develop their emotional awareness, connect with their purpose at this point in their life, learn to generate motivation to achieve their dreams and finally live their life NOW – integrating the 8 pillars of the Unshakable Man. That is an unshakable man.
8 Pillars of The Unshakable Man (PDF)
The Unshakable Man Program
The Unshakable Man Program is an 8-week emotional awareness training designed to be a milestone event during a man’s mid-life stage. Like many rights of passage, this program acts as an ending and a beginning for a man to start a new stage of his life and awareness. Men who get the most out of the program are usually:
- Between the ages of 27 and 37
- Have their needs of safety, security and basic income intact.
- Have made a personal choice to take ownership of their life
- Have begun their own self-directed learning journey
- Are seeking more structure to guide their self-directed learning process
- Want to recognize and make a series of specific changes in their life
3 Graduates of the program
The Program Process – 8 Stages
The Unshakable Man Program process guides a man through 8 stages over 8 to 16 weeks depending on his own pace of self exploration. After each stage he passes a check-point where he reviews, reflects, and challenges what he’s discovered with expert coach Mike Sagun.
The 8 stage process is based on the 8 Pillars of the Unshakable Man:
- Pillar 1 / week 1 = Breathwork. The man is trained to use breathwork to relax, open and connect to his embodied emotional awareness and to recognize his own container of a calm, cool, collected presence. This is our home base, our dojo and the basics that we must routinely return to in order to do this work.
- Pillar 2 / week 2 = Discipline. The man is challenged on his relationship with self-discipline. Where did his concept of discipline come from and what forms of self-discipline work for him personally? With awareness, practice, and behavioral training a man can learn to make constructive choices and increase his level of self discipline.
- Pillar 3 / week 3 = Story. The man is asked to tell his story and to challenge his perspective on major concrete life events to form a constructive past positive point of reference for each of his major milestone events that matter to him. One of the most enduring functions of narrative is catharsis. Yet – if we tell a destructive story the inverse is true and we may be stuck in a vicious cycle rather than creating a virtuous cycle that propels a man forward.
- Pillar 4 / week 4 = Emotions. Emotions are literally how we experience our world from inside our minds and bodies. We are not our emotions. Our emotions are signals. If a man is trained to experience his wider emotional spectrum he is in turn training himself to experience a wider spectrum of life. This is the transition to building a stronger more nuanced relationship with his own sense of self, as well as all of his important relationships in life.
- Pillar 5 / week 5 = Values. Knowing what your core values are can be tricky. At this stage a man is asked to back into his values by starting with what he is proud of in his past, what brings him joy, and what shaped him to be the man he is today. Then he is asked to explain his reason for each of these points of reference. What he values can be found in his answers and how he explains his reasons for picking. And finally the act of labeling and confronting how a man is living up to these values provides a measure of his dreamer differential.
- Pillar 6 / week 6 = Purpose. A mans purpose is the result of four life forces working together to bake your passion, mission, profession and vocation into a cake all for your own. These four forces or design constraints are: that which you are good at, that which you love to do, that which the world needs, and that which you can be paid for. You can live at any level of purpose in your life, but your values and measure of integrity will decide the level of purpose you stay at.
- Pillar 7 / week 7 = Motivation. The first thing you need to know about motivation is that you do not have motivation. You generate motivation. Motivation is generated through a combination of two things: ambition and expectancy. Your level of ambition is driven by the size of and your relationship with your dreams and aspirations. And expectancy is the belief that you can do it and that “this will happen” deep in your gut. You increase your ambition and expectancy. And you align your actions, behaviors, and environment to trigger motivation when you need it.
- Pillar 8 / week 8 = Integration. The final pillar is your life process of integration. You are the artist, creator, teacher, parent, athlete, warrior and entrepreneur of your own life. All of these archetypes have a process that they use to be who they are and to get the results they want. You will use three primary practices to integrate the pillars in your life: 1) you will create and use milestones to structure your own beginning, end and therefore middle of your process, 2) you will develop a self directed learning mindset of non-judgmental awareness that allows you to ask important questions of yourself and to listen to difficult answers, and 3) you will look down at your feet – your next step – to practice small imperfect actions and rely on trial-and-error to make progress one day at time.
Next Step… A 15 min phone call.
Request a call with Mike Sagun and schedule a 15 min intro call here.
No matter where you are in your journey:
- If you have questions about any of the content we’ve created.
- If you want to explore your options.
- If you want to make a big change (maybe join the program)
- If you want to ask about the program
- If you want to ask about coaching
It all starts with a single 15 min phone call as an introduction. Depending on your goals, plans, challenges, needs, and wants we will either provide a clear next step for you, point out additional resources from our archive, or offer you a much deeper free breakthrough call that we offer as a sample of the work we do.
You can request a call back and schedule a 15 min intro call within 2 weeks.