Remember our co-worker, Max?
He’s our erratic, emotionally unaware avatar. (Read more about him here)
Many of us know a Max. Heck, we might even be Max. Chris thinks he was a Max.
What we might not know about Max is that he is lonely. And he is suffering. But Max might not even think his loneliness is severe. And he might not know that if he doesn’t ask for help now, he is on a path to chronic illness, heart disease, dementia, and maybe suicide.
Research is now showing that loneliness is an epidemic impacting up to 40% of American adults 45+ years old. We are also learning that this epidemic is now more dangerous than smoking a pack of cigarettes a day and obesity. (See #6 one nation under stress)
Let me ask you this…
Are you feeling lonely?
Are you embarrassed to answer yes? That’s the trap.
You’re not alone.
Young boys naturally cultivate deep relationships with other boys. But through adolescence, young men start to lose those deep relationships. And as we develop romantic relationships in our early to mid 20s, our relationship priorities start to change.
As we leave the forced connectivity of high school and college our society and culture often silently tells us we no-longer need those connections. We might even feel like we don’t need to maintain that same level of connection with the men in our lives.
Around 35 years old, men begin to feel symptoms of loneliness–isolation, loss of interest in hobbies/activities, chronic fatigue, and increased substance abuse. But many signs point to this problem starting as early as 20-25.
Fact: the highest demographic of suicides in America are committed by men ages 45-65. (more stats here)
Here’s a sentence you can complete to assess whether or not you might be lonely, “If my car died on the side of the road, I can call _______ to help me out.”
Having trouble filling in the blank?
Again, you’re not alone. You and a 3rd of men in America report feeling lonely.
Also – If you answered “yes” to feeling lonely, you’ve just taken an emotional rep. Nice work!
Chris and I have the tools to help you feel reconnected.
Max feels lonely, but hasn’t identified it yet. You’re a step ahead of Max. Identifying your emotions is a step towards a healthier lifestyle.
So what do you do now?
Call me. (link below to find a time)
Let’s find 15 minutes to chat. I’d love to learn a little more about you and your story.
I can help you build your emotional awareness and get you back to feeling connected again.
Don’t worry, I won’t shame or judge you. And our call is confidential. Promise.
If you are a good fit for our program I will offer you a free 90 min breath-rough call.
The first 15 min call is just a chance to make introductions.
Still not convinced?
Here are some common myths about loneliness, debunked:
- Loneliness is real. It’s not made up.
- You can have a rich social life and still feel lonely.
- Loneliness is not your fault.
- Loneliness doesn’t only affect older people.
- Loneliness has nothing to do with social intelligence.
Maybe you’re telling yourself, “I can’t be lonely. I have a high IQ and I’m successful.”
Guess what? Having a high IQ has nothing to do with EQ.
Read on to IQ vs EQ – what makes emotional intelligence so important – here.